My heart filled with gratitude when my 5-year-old son ran towards me, hugged me tightly, and said, “Happy Mother’s Day, Mama.” Of course, it wasn’t his own idea someone must have guided him. But still, that little gesture melted my heart. I hugged him back, kissed him on the forehead, and whispered, “Thank you, mera beta.”
Later that day, I was scrolling through Instagram and came across a video. A girl was busy helping in the kitchen while her mother was away. But the moment her mother returned, she slipped under a blanket and started scrolling her phone, pretending to rest. That hit me hard.
It reminded me of my own journey. When I got married, everyone including my own parents was skeptical. I wasn’t exactly known for being responsible at home. I wasn’t a morning person, barely entered the kitchen, and avoided household chores whenever possible. People wondered: “Will she manage?”
But life post-marriage? Everything changed.
The girl who never left her bed before 9 a.m. was now up at 6:30, preparing breakfast and lunch, tidying up the house, and getting ready for work. I had become the woman I never imagined I could be.
When my father learned about how I was managing everything, he was shocked but proud. And that pride meant the world to me.
Yet something inside me ached. I had never done all this for them.
My parents never asked much from me, but whenever I made tea for my father, his eyes sparkled. Here I was, putting all my effort into being a good wife and daughter-in-law, but I had never done the same for my parents when I had the time.
And now, as a mother myself, I understand even more.
We celebrate Mother’s Day with cake, flowers, and maybe a fun outing. But what about the other 364 days? Are we giving her rest, attention, love, and support every day? Or are we reserving our affection for just one day, while she continues to silently shoulder everything without complaint?
To every girl reading this: You have limited time with your parents.
Right now, you may not realize it. You think there’s always time to call, to visit, to sit with them. But once you’re married or move away, life takes over.
Responsibilities pile up. Your own family needs you. And if you’re working, like me as an architect, as a designer, or in any demanding career, your time feels even tighter. You’re juggling so much that visiting your parents becomes an occasional luxury.
But one day, you’ll wake up with a heart full of guilt.
You’ll remember how little you did when you had the time. You’ll wish you had made more tea, cooked more meals, or just sat and laughed with them more often.
So here’s my heartfelt advice:
- Do the small things help in the kitchen, make their favorite snack, sit and talk to them.
- Learn the basics not just to help your future family, but to make your present family feel loved.
- Give time not just when it’s convenient, but especially when it’s not.
Because your mother is not a machine. She’s human. She needs rest, love, and a little pampering too.
Yes, marriage will teach you responsibility. Yes, your career will build your identity. But don’t let them cost you the moments that matter most.
Because one day, when you finally have time, those moments may no longer be waiting.
Celebrate your mother every day. Not with gifts. But with love, time, and gratitude.
Trust me, that will mean more than any flower bouquet ever will.
A LETTER TO EVERY DAUGHTER : CELEBRATE MOTHER’S DAY EVERY DAY
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